Williamsburg Regional Library

The unwritten rules of friendship, simple strategies to help your child make friends, by Natalie Madorsky Elman and Eileen Kennedy-Moore

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Includes bibliographical references (pages 317-324) and index

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The unwritten rules of friendship

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by Natalie Madorsky Elman and Eileen Kennedy-Moore

simple strategies to help your child make friends

Nobody likes me" is a complaint that parents hear all too often, and few utterances make them feel more helpless. What can a parent do for a child who feels isolated, rejected, or out of sync with his or her peers? This practical and compassionate handbook draws on the authors' experience working with thousands of children to offer you as a parent (or teacher or caregiver) tools you can use -- including practical activities, games, and exercises -- to identify a child's social strengths and difficulties and to sharpen any child's social skills. Nearly every child has trouble with social relationships in some way, at some time. Some children feel awkward in groups. Some have trouble resolving arguments. Some stick out in such a way that they become natural targets for bullies. And some seem virtually incapable of making friends. No matter what your child's situation -- whether he or she is a born leader or a constant complainer, a wallflower or an unwitting aggressor, a poor sport or a perfectionist -- you'll recognize your child's struggles in the case studies in this book. You'll discover why certain children don't "get" particular social conventions, and you'll learn simple strategies for increasing your child's awareness of the unspoken underpinnings of social interactions -- knowledge that is essential to building, sustaining, and repairing relationships

The Unwritten Rules of Friendship: Simple Strategies Every Child Needs to Know -- The Vulnerable Child -- Allen: Giving In to Threats -- Phillip: Asking for Trouble -- The Intimidating Child -- Jason: Believing "Might Makes Right" -- Dolores: Excluding Another Child -- Jennifer: Bullying a Sibling -- The Different Drummer -- Eric: Seeking Negative Attention -- Spencer: Talking Up a Storm -- Chelsea: Coming On Too Strong -- The Shy Child -- Michael: Not Knowing What to Say -- Emma: Hiding from the Group -- The Short-Fused Child -- Gregory: Acting Like a Poor Sport -- Lorena: Assuming Malicious Intent -- Malcolm: Falling Apart in Public -- The Little Adult -- Margaret: Playing "the Expert" -- Simon: Belittling Peers' Interests -- Nathan: Needing to Be Perfect -- The Sensitive Soul -- Jonathan: Overresponding to Teasing -- Claudia: Overreacting to Criticism -- Lauren: Holding On to Grudges -- The Born Leader -- Samantha: Running the Show -- Jack: Acting Like the Rule Police -- Francine: Arguing with Authority Figures -- The Pessimistic Child -- Meredith: Constantly Complaining -- Nadia: Feeling Shortchanged -- Zack: Expecting the Worst

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