Bibliograph

Why won't you apologize?, healing big betrayals and everyday hurts, Harriet Lerner, Ph. D

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Why won't you apologize?, healing big betrayals and everyday hurts, Harriet Lerner, Ph. D

Language

eng

Bibliography note

Includes bibliographical references (pages 191-195)

Index

no index present

Literary Form

non fiction

Main title

Why won't you apologize?

Oclc number

944469819

Responsibility statement

Harriet Lerner, Ph. D

Sub title

healing big betrayals and everyday hurts

Summary

"Renowned psychologist and bestselling author of The Dance of Anger sheds new light on the two most important words in the English language--I'm sorry--and offers a unique perspective on the challenge of healing broken connections and restoring trust. Dr. Harriet Lerner has been studying apologiesand why some people won't give themfor more than two decades. Now she offers compelling stories and solid theory that bring home how much the simple apology matters and what is required for healing when the hurt we've inflicted (or received) is far from simple. Readers will learn how to craft a deeply meaningful "I'm sorry" and avoid apologies that only deepen the original injury. Why Won't You Apologize? also addresses the compelling needs of the injured partythe one who has been hurt by someone who won't apologize, tell the truth, or feel remorse. Lerner explains what drives both the non-apologizer and the over-apologizer, as well as why the people who do the worst things are the least able to own up. She helps the injured person resist pressure to forgive too easily and challenges the popular notion that forgiveness is the only path to peace of mind. With her trademark humor and wit, Lerner offers a joyful and sanity-saving guide to setting things right,"--Amazon.com

Table Of Contents

The many faces of "I'm sorry" -- Five ways to ruin an apology -- More wimpy, overblown, and downright relationship-busting sorrys -- Apologizing under fire: how to handle big-time criticism -- The secret life of the non-apologizer -- "He's so defensive!": what do you have to do with it? -- How--and whether--to accept the olive branch -- Who is at fault?: when reconciliation grinds to a halt -- The most stunning apology I ever witnessed -- "You need to forgive" and other lies that hurt you -- How to find peace -- The two most powerful words in the English language

Target audience

adult

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Healing big betrayals and everyday hurts

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